Drastoria is the canon ship of Draco and Astoria, while Dramione is the uncanon ship of Draco and Hermione, but for some reason, Dramione is a much more popular ship within the fandom.
Drastoria is my favorite ship in the series, and I honestly just think Dramione is overrated. Here are all of the reasons why I think Drastoria is better than Dramione and why I just don’t think Dramione would work out.
First, let’s look at how they acted early on in the books.
Draco treated Hermione badly because she was muggleborn, and he was a pureblood supremacist like his family. This is not the way that a relationship is! People might think Draco only treated her the way he did because he had a crush on her, but there’s a difference between teasing someone you have a crush on and bullying someone. Draco’s treatment of Hermione was not a crush.
Hermione also didn’t like Draco. She didn’t like the way he treated her and her friends. Some people point out that she punched/slapped him in the face as another reason Hermione and Draco don’t have a relationship, although that’s one reason I don’t entirely agree with because, going by the books, it was a slap, and I can imagine Astoria slapping him in the face sometimes, but the difference between Hermione slapping him and Astoria slapping him, is that Hermione slapped him because she really didn’t like him, and at that moment, he was being really mean, while Astoria really loves him and probably sometimes just slaps him in the face in a more playful way.
Hermione also loves Ron, and she’s loved him for a long time and been through so much with him (both good and bad things), so why would she randomly just have feelings for Draco and ditch Ron for him?
I don’t have anything against the idea of Draco and Hermione becoming friends after Deathly Hallows. Draco did change his views on muggles and muggleborns after Deathly Hallows, and I could see him and Hermione becoming friends. But that still doesn’t mean they’d have feelings for each other. Hermione loves Ron, and Draco loves Astoria.
Some of the reasons people ship Dramione are also things that Drastoria includes.
“Forbidden Romance” – In my opinion, I think Draco and Astoria could be considered forbidden romance because Draco’s parents didn’t approve of it. It’s just not as obviously “forbidden” as Hermione and Draco, but I honestly like the subtleness of it.
“Hermione can make Draco a better person!” – Astoria “made” Draco a better person, only she didn’t actually /make/ him a better person, she /inspired/ and /influenced/ him to be a better person, and he chose to be a better person himself, which is much better than just her forcing him.
“Bad-boy x Good-girl ships” – Draco and Astoria is also technically one of these, only it’s done really well and goes a lot deeper than what these types of ships can be most of the time. It’s more like a compassionate woman meeting a broken man and wanting to help him.
“Enemies-to-lovers” – Again, it’s more subtle, and I like that. My idea is that Draco didn’t know much, if anything, about Astoria and didn’t pay attention to her, while she knew a lot more about him but didn’t like him or ever get involved with him. But then of course, when he was an adult, she realized he had changed, and she decided to give him a chance and ended up falling in love with him.
Draco and Hermione also have certain similarities and differences that I don’t think would make them a good couple.
They’ve been through much different things, and there’s just a lot of things different about them in areas to where I just don’t think they would be able to understand each other.
The only area they’re really similar in is their intelligence (which Astoria and Ron have too), but also the fact that they’re both just very focused and serious about certain things. Hermione and Draco really don’t need each other to stress out all the time. They each need someone who can help them relax and have fun, and I think Ron is able to help Hermione in that way, and Astoria helps Draco that way.
Hermione and Draco don’t have what they need to have in common to understand each other, and they aren’t different in the ways they need to be to help each other. Draco and Astoria do have those things.
Ron and Draco are different people in ways that make me think that while Hermione can put up with Ron’s “Ron-ness”, she wouldn’t be able to put up with Draco’s “Draco-ness” like Astoria can and does. I don’t think Hermione would be very happy with Draco, and she is happy with Ron.
Draco also wouldn’t be very happy with Hermione. Like I said, Hermione wouldn’t understand Draco. He has PTSD from what he’s been through, and he has nightmares, but I don’t think Hermione would really understand that. She wouldn’t be as soothing and gentle as Astoria and would get really frustrated with him instead of comforting him and helping him.
A lot of this is mostly just my opinion, so if you ship Dramione, I’m not saying you can’t. I just wanted to give reasons for why I prefer Drastoria.